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As Bee is reading over my shoulder, she’s insisting on me typing “Bars…ANY bar!” I was hoping she would say smoothie, seaweed, etc!
Which is funny, because in about 15 years I’ll be stoked if she says Larabars…Z Bars and not snacks from, “Bars! ANY bar!” ;)
Can I get an Amen?!? :)
It’s so fascinating to see everyone’s tactic and perspective. But it really does seem like Suzanne’s comment (boiled down) is the main thread…just stay consistent.
And at the same time, I have to remind myself, if/when other issues come up, I need to do the same, STAY CONSISTENT! No sense doing what works, JUST when it’s “important.”
Cheers everyone!
Hey Debbie! Obviously every little one is different, but this worked for us. My aunt (fake aunt…you know the family friend that’s so close) told me that her daughter kept running. So one day she followed her quickly to the street and just right before she got to the edge she SCREAMED her daughter’s name, like an absolute crazy person, and scooped her daughter “harshly” into her arms, YELLING in her face for her to, “NEVER DO THAT AGAIN YOU COULD HAVE BEEN HIT I WOULD NEVER WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO YOU SO NEVER DO THAT AGAAAAAAAAIIIIIN! Etc. Etc.”
She said the neighbors probably thought she was a lunatic. But she said her thoughts were, “If a bus was driving down the street about to hit her, what would my reaction be? I can imagine that scenario and the absolutely horrible outcome…but Rachel (her daughter) could never envision the severity, until I made the moment real for her. And she never ran into the street’s again.” She also said she didn’t have to do that for her son. So nothing is one size fits all.
SO, I did that with my daughter and she also never ran into the street again. She was about 3 when I pulled out my Oscar winning performance at my street’s edge. :) But if I’m honest, it actually drummed up real tears and I just stared into my daughter’s eyes so she could see it.
“It was an honor just being nominated.” ;)
I like that Adrienne! And that type of response works for us allllllllmost 100% of the time. But I will say, at the risk of throwing my mom COMPLETELY under the bus, when our kids come home from her house having had, “Just a little taste of frosting” (which we all know means just shy of a handful), there is no containing the amount of energy in our little ones. They act like COMPLETELY different children.
I remember one time, our daughter came home from Grandma’s house and was rolling on our floor crying about nothing she could describe. Once she burned the energy out (and we just let her) she explained that they stayed up “really late watching a movie,” then woke up and had multiple pancakes with syrup. Zoiks. Not a recipe for a solid 4 year old. :)
To be honest, I’m more for screen time than my wife. I completely agree I watched WAY too much TV as a kid, BUT at the same time I spent hours playing outdoors with friends as TV characters we thought were “cool.”
ANNNNNND there are so many amazing learning apps on the iPad! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel, saying “Go on your iPad to learn today” is teaching. But I do feel using it as a tool while teaching with them, it’s like nothing we ever had access to…in a great way!
Man, I hope that all doesn’t come across as being a parent that just passes a device to our kids at a dinner table! :)