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I tried to potty train my son twice at 18 months and 2 years old. He is now 2.7 and I am not sure how to go about it. I read two books No Stress Potty Training and Oh Crap! I have failed miserably. How did you train your child(ren)? Please share. Thanks.
we’re in the midst of potty training right now. 3yo boy in April. so far he has success with peeing at home when naked. once the underwear goes on there’s been a few accidents but he’s learning to recognize what’s happening i think. POOPING is a whole other story. oy. he holds it in! and will even ask to go for a nap or bedtime because he knows it means i’ll put a pullup on. then he’ll run and hide somewhere and the next thing i know he’s walking up to me saying “i pooped. new pull up please.” so that’s been interesting. sigh. i think the advice here is to keep plugging away at it. that’s what i hear from fellow parents as well. they all come to it in their own time we just need to keep encouraging. good luck!
Hi Chiqui!
What’s his personality like? For our (very strong-willed and independent) daughter, we had to remove ourselves from the process entirely. She didn’t want help on the big toilet, didn’t want help washing her hands, didn’t want help being prompted or reminded when to go. So one day, a friend brought over her mini-version potty and I put it in our bathroom, saying “This is yours. You’re totally in charge of your pee and poop. Let me know if you need me.”
She never went back to diapers afterward. :)
Our son, however, is totally different! He likes us to cheer for him every time he keeps his diaper dry, likes us to help him with every aspect imaginable. (For the record, he’s the same age as your son and still hit-or-miss.) I’d say reintroduce gently when he’s 3! He’ll get it soon enough. :)
Becky: My son did the same thing. I was amused when he ran to his room and grabbed a diaper to poop.
Other Goose: He is also independent. I will need to choose my words carefully when reintroducing potty training. I like how you told your daughter – you’re in charge…let me know if you need me. I’m hoping we could do it before 3. :)
Thank you both for responding. It’s encouraging.
Tete is now fully potty-trained, all day and all night, at 3.9 years-old. We are very grateful. My husband and I tag teamed. When we resumed potty training, my husband did the talking and I did the cleaning. This worked well for our family because my husband was calmer talking to Tete when he peed in his under ware. Tete was receptive and understood what he had to do. I wish you guys the best!
My daughter is 3.5 yo. Goes #1 on potty just fine and has done it for a while now. She refuses to go poopy on the potty, even to try. We have tried everything we can think of, she has no interest. Always puts on a pull up goes somewhere and does her business. We have tried a star chart with prizes to get her to just try sitting on the potty when she has to poop, but she says “I don’t need the prize, I’ll just poop in the pull up”. She has tried a few time a while ago but she freaked out and demanded a pull up the last time she tried. We tried hard not to put too much pressure on her. Not sure what we can do. Any suggestions?
Hi Katie, My son did the same. I was very frustrated. It got to the point where I took the Pull Ups out of his reach and told him its only for sleeping. I watched him closely. When he had to go #2, I took him to the toilet. There were a couple of times when my son relieved himself on the floor. My husband talked with him calmly, and I quickly cleaned up. We moved on and did not make a big deal in front of him. This may have been the turning point because he understood why he needed to go to the toilet. Good luck and let us know how you’re doing. <3 CC
When we were potty training our daughter we realized that she loved underwear. So in her Easter basket I got her very soft bamboo underwear. She wanted to try them on and loved how soft they were. I told her that is she went potty in the panties we would just need to take them off. Something seemed to change after that. We also put in the left over pads from after giving birth that I still had for some reason in her undies when we left the house or during sleepy time until she got comfortable with letting me know she needed to go to the bathroom in public and was staying dry at night. Pull ups just never worked for us. She just viewed it as a diaper. So once we switched to panties we never went back. Accidents happened, but she seemed to like the underwear. I know our son will be different. He cares about different things. So we will see.
After potty training my eldest daughter took over a year from start to finish, I knew we needed a more organized approach for my second. I read Oh Crap, Potty Training, it was so eye opening about how children hear what we say, how our choice of words (and the tone in which we speak them) strongly impacts the child’s perception. Under this method, with daughters 2 and 3, diapers were “all gone” at 18 and 20 months, while they wandered the house bottomless and my most used phrases became “pee goes in the potty” and “sit on the potty when your poop wants to come out”. Yes there were plenty of patience testing messes, but overall totally worth training early, getting out of diaper duty (washing or buying), and creating the potty habit before they’re old enough to have an opinion on the subject!
Both early trained daughters got to the point where they saved poop for naptime, knowing they’d get a diaper, and after a couple times of that the diapers were gone for naptime too. The thing is, kids don’t want to have to deal with potty messes any more than we do. In the diaper they don’t have to deal with it, but in their own cribs at naptime, a poop is not welcome by them. It took a couple yucky bed poops for mine to choose to try to put the poop in the potty before naptime instead (with prompting). One of mine needed privacy even before age 2 for her to relax enough to poop. The only prize I gave was praise, and big girl undies by the time they were 2.
Daughters 2 and 3 were 98% trained by second birthday as opposed to daughter 1 not trained until 3 after trying all through age 2 with no method.
If you’re having troubles with an older child my heart goes out to you, but the only advice I can give is if you’ve got more kids coming, I highly recommend starting around 20-28 months with the method in “oh crap potty training”. Good luck! <3
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