Hi Beth Ann!
TOTALLY, and I 100% hear you. Here are a few interesting pieces:
Predictors of Student Achievement, and What Children Need from Parents:
What Research Says About Parent Involvement
The New Science of Child Development
Benefits of Delaying Formal Education
PISA Worldwide Ranking Scores
Mental Health Benefits for Delaying Kindergarten
Also, my husband Ken LOVES talking to dads about this kind of thing, b/c he was a skeptic and now is SOLD. Feel free to email if you ever want to connect with him!: hello@othergoose.com. :)